Rocky Update

Caregiving is an experience with many feelings and thoughtful conclusions. However, just when you think you have the meaning right, another ramification of truth emerges. Death and dying is a complicated process. It is inevitable for each of us. Some transitions are instant while others are months long, even years.

The beauty of hospice is the time given to witness the process up close and adjust to it. I doubt anyone can tell you how it will go. The experience is uniquely yours and very personal.

Rocky has experienced many phases in his transition journey. At this time, he is bedridden, has a catheter and bag, no longer takes nourishment or hydration. He is on pain killers that produce a sleepy condition. He moves a bit but not with intentional meaning for others. In short, there is no communication.

Touch is the last source of comfort for him, that and minimizing pain and discomfort.

The process has been long and challenging for everyone, especially the caregivers. This work is not for the faint of heart. No, it is character building and mind altering.

Reality is just that, real. Being a part of the process helps to understand the approaching end and loss. At this point, death will be a relief for the patient and for those who love him. Suffering is never a pleasant experience. It is, however, educational and enriching to a point.

For me the end will be of comfort. Loss is already real. Suffering is begging for a cease. I think that will be soon.

For all of you who have supported Rocky and George in this experience, thank you. The kind thoughts, the prayers, hugs, emails, phone calls and visits have been heartwarming. The food you all have shared has been a blessing beyond value. Thank you to each of you. We could not have done this without your support.

And prayers. They have been felt.

July 21, 2023

 

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